Re: I'm buying the gifts that keep on giving: Microsoft software.

CobraBoy! (tbyars@earthlink.net)
Tue, 30 Jun 1998 21:45:19 -0700


At 2:02 PM -0700 6/30/98, Rohit Khare came up with this:

> > They're not for me. They are a gift for Rohit's 4th date.
> >
> > Greg
>
> Then there's definitely no rush... just got the
>third-date-let's-be-friends-cha
> t this weekend. (Do you know how it goes, Ernie?)

Well having watched Rohit in action I believe that I can offer a few words
of advice.

Rohit, your problem is you are trying to engage women on an equal level.
Women don't want this. They want you to be in control.

Let me give you a quick example. Remember the waitress? She was coming off
all snotty and I'm so tired and I almost died yesterday from my allergies.
And if you noticed (which I don't think you did) I made a remark to her
that she was a "snappy little brat" or some such thing. Then you might or
might not have noticed that her entire demeanor changed and we couldn't get
better service.

Why? I demonstrated I was in control. I have yet to see you demonstrate
you're in control. Your always waiting for an answer, or making a point.
That isn't in control. That is at the same level. That is what friends do.

So if you wanna be friends keep it that way.

Tim

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